Why hating people is important
Sometimes you just do things because they need to be done. No matter how much it hurts you or the people around you. Because sometimes, nothing is more important than the truth.
There are always three sides to every story - your side, the other person's side and the true side. No matter how much prejudicial we want to be, we often get clouded by our own emotions that affect our judgement in turn. It's not our fault, the humans are driven by emotions. Though I really wish sometimes I could turn my emotions off like a vampire.
I guess we are just not that lucky and we need to find a way to live with it. When someone we love makes a mistake, we find a way to forgive them. Because no matter what they did we still love them and we still want them in our lives. Because when we love someone, we don't judge them, we just want them to be happy. But its so weird that if someone we hate makes the same mistake, we leave no chance of criticizing them either in front of them or behind them.
That's the human nature I guess. Some people are brought into this world to criticize you - like your mother. But at the same time, they make you stronger. They are the reason the negative comments don't bother you anymore (Well, atleast they don't bother you as much as they should ). So in a way, they balance out your life. If there are people who love you endlessly, there should also be people who hate you so that you don't get spoiled by all the love around you. So that you can appreciate the good people in your life.
I am not saying that hating people is great, I am saying that it is completely okay for few people to hate you for no apparent reason. You probably can't please everyone in this world. Beyonce can, but you can't. So you need to find a way to make peace with it. Also, lets be honest with ourselves here and accept that even we hate some people and we don't know why. So may be letting go of the hate is not as easy as we thought. There are so many different people in this people, its only natural that we are bound get repulsed by some.
The most important thing is to be able to differentiate between the people who want your good and the people who will do anything to bring you down.
There are always three sides to every story - your side, the other person's side and the true side. No matter how much prejudicial we want to be, we often get clouded by our own emotions that affect our judgement in turn. It's not our fault, the humans are driven by emotions. Though I really wish sometimes I could turn my emotions off like a vampire.
I guess we are just not that lucky and we need to find a way to live with it. When someone we love makes a mistake, we find a way to forgive them. Because no matter what they did we still love them and we still want them in our lives. Because when we love someone, we don't judge them, we just want them to be happy. But its so weird that if someone we hate makes the same mistake, we leave no chance of criticizing them either in front of them or behind them.
That's the human nature I guess. Some people are brought into this world to criticize you - like your mother. But at the same time, they make you stronger. They are the reason the negative comments don't bother you anymore (Well, atleast they don't bother you as much as they should ). So in a way, they balance out your life. If there are people who love you endlessly, there should also be people who hate you so that you don't get spoiled by all the love around you. So that you can appreciate the good people in your life.
I am not saying that hating people is great, I am saying that it is completely okay for few people to hate you for no apparent reason. You probably can't please everyone in this world. Beyonce can, but you can't. So you need to find a way to make peace with it. Also, lets be honest with ourselves here and accept that even we hate some people and we don't know why. So may be letting go of the hate is not as easy as we thought. There are so many different people in this people, its only natural that we are bound get repulsed by some.
The most important thing is to be able to differentiate between the people who want your good and the people who will do anything to bring you down.
PS - I am sick and I have no idea why I wrote this
PPS - This is my 100th post. Wuhuuuu *cough*
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You know, I can't believe that I actually agree with you bcoz the title really threw me off. Taking strength from negativity is an admirable quality indeed. Many people say that you can't help who you love but I suppose the same theory can be applied to hate too. You can't really help who you hate. I've read somewhere that it takes us about 10 seconds to determine whether or not we like a person based on first impressions alone. I'm sorry, I'm going off on a tangent. Coming back to the topic at hand, I really loved the article. It held my attention and made me nod my head throughout almost as if I was in a rock concert ;) Although, you must admit, there might be another side to this debate too. PS/ Didn't know vampires could turn off emotions. Though, you can't blame you really, most of my knowledge of vampires does come from twilight. Edward Cullen showed more emotions than a woman in labor. Really wish that he had turned it off.
ReplyDeleteI like your theory Priyanshi and even I believe that you cant choose who you hate just like you cant chose who you love. Nobody likes hating anyone but I guess it just happens
DeletePS - My vampire knowledge comes from continuously binge watching Vampire Diaries :D
hating people is necessary but then you have to understand that not all people who criticize you hate you. For example your mother. As per why hating is necessary well because you cannot love everyone. Your hatred and repulsion towards others makes you realize the value of people whom you love.
ReplyDeleteI think you are right Datta..my mother probably doesnt hate me. PROBABLY :D
DeleteI was one among those who tried to please everyone then I realised it was simply not possible. . Now I am a proud hater and hated by many I think. . :P
ReplyDelete"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." - Winston Churchill
The most important thing is to not be bothered about what people perceive of you...and not let it get to you
Deletethree sides to a story was a win win :) (i was curious when I read three)
ReplyDeleteBut I don't quite agree. I mean "hate" is quite a heavy word. Anger, dislikes is understandable. But unless sb steals away from my plate I don't see why I will hate anybody :P
(on a serious note, life is simple or I am too busy with people I like)
Anger, dislike, critiscism are all a subset of Hate and I wanted to address them all, thats why I used the word hate here.. And I actually agree with you, hate is a pretty heavy word.
Deletein the end, that is the most important thing - realise who is ur well wisher and who is the lying conniving snake u cant trust. The first person may hurt u with his words but he cares for u... the second may sugar coat his tongue yet his is the poison laced character u should fear
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely right.. the people who actually care about us show us things exactly how they are and never sugar coat it in any way
DeleteVery well said. Those who hate themselves do hate others.
ReplyDeleteAge makes us stronger as a person and gradually we learn how to mute the haters. Hate is a very strong word and it takes away all the positivity and goodness out of you..
ReplyDeleteremember -"if people hate you without even knowing you, then you are doing something good and that is not hate . It's envy"
The best critism comes from those who don't like you. I try to learn from them..
It is okay to dislike people for their views snd opinions but hate only cripples the hater.
And mothers are the best motivators and the best critics, in my opinion.
I agree with you LH, mothers critiscize you because they want the best out of you. But sometimes you need to tune everything out and realize what you want to do in your life.
DeleteAnd I love what you said about envy, as they say - haters are just confused admirers. I guess you just need to take all your strength in and move on, despite of anything
Congratulations on the 100th post Ritika :). I very agree, there will be people who hate us for no apparent reason at all. And like you said, it is completely ok too, just let them be and move on with your life and things will follow :)
ReplyDeleteI am glad you liked it Vinay :)
Deletehearty congratulations... and thank you for giving this awesome reason :D
ReplyDeleteHaha.. thank you :)
DeleteI like the layout of this blog, the white background is easy on the eyes. And I agree its okay to be hated and to hate sometimes . This is also why we need God in our lives so we can tell Him why we have to hate even though He told us not to .
ReplyDeleteI think hate and love are two counter parts like yin and yang..one cannot exist without the other
Deletereading this post brings me solace...i alwazs say...everz feeling in this world i mutual....if u hate someone they will hate you too....but forgiving is not the answer...cos that doesnt happen mutually....your forgiveness to someone does not command or make it mandatory for the other person to reciprocate your actions.....so i guess its better to live with it.....and i am sure love will balance out the hate..
ReplyDeleteForgiveness for me goes both ways. It is important for the other person to forgive but at the same time you should be able to forgive yourself for the mistakes you did
DeleteYou have made a valid point that both the thing is important and its always good to have hater casue they make you strong in a way !
ReplyDeletePS: Congratulations on your 100th Post :)
Thank you so much RH :)
DeleteOne can't please everyone. Hate probably is a strong word, but weed out people from life, who bring out negative emotions. If one can't then keep the association minimal.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right Ruchi.. Its important to keep those people out of your life whose sole purpose is to make you feel bad about everything.
Deletei DONT HATE ANYONE.. Thats true!! Yes I am shocked.
ReplyDeleteI believe in selective reception of comments. I take what I feel benefits me and ignore what doesnt. I dont hate anyone because if I am hurt I let the person who caused it, go away only after hearing me out. I like confrontations. Once that is done, I simply become indifferent.
I am the total opposite - I just cant do connfrontations. I had rather run away and hide :/
DeleteBest thing is you understood this "The most important thing is to be able to differentiate between the people who want your good and the people who will do anything to bring you down." right at 22 :-))
ReplyDeleteSometimes life teaches you a lot without you even knowing it :)
DeleteI can totally relate to what u mean, cause I'm the kind of person most of my close one's hate, or the people who were once close to me. And that have led me to become a loner. And that had made me to understand myself better and do better with my life. If it be wasn't 4 them, i would still have been a pampered guy with lots of love. I think if sme1 hates u 4 sme reason, u shuld correct it and try to be a better person, not 4 dem, bt 4 urself.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely Siddharth.. I think you should change only when you think its good for yourself and not for the people around you
DeleteI'm new in the era of reading blogs , nd now I'm ur follower .
ReplyDeleteUh said
"The most important thing is to be able to differentiate between the people who want your good and the people who will do anything to bring you down."
but I want to ask uh how to differentiate in between people..
we have thousands of people around us during our short life i.e. childhood frnds, school frnds,college frnds, and many more people.
we don't have so much time or things to loose while testing each and every person around us.
so how can we differentiate.?
I'm new in the era of reading blogs , nd now I'm ur follower .
ReplyDeleteUh said
"The most important thing is to be able to differentiate between the people who want your good and the people who will do anything to bring you down."
but I want to ask uh how to differentiate in between people..
we have thousands of people around us during our short life i.e. childhood frnds, school frnds,college frnds, and many more people.
we don't have so much time or things to loose while testing each and every person around us.
so how can we differentiate.?
You cannot please everyone so I guess hating some people and being hated by a few people is totally fine and it shows you're living a normal life :)
ReplyDeleteand well In terms of Physics..Like there is an anti matter for every matter.. There is hatred for the love too. Everything has to be neutral in Universe. :D
Absolutely Romil. There needs to be a Yin for every Yang :)
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