Just Friends ?
Do you think you could ever fall in love with your best friend ? Or are you already in love with them ?
Two things happened this week that made me think about it. I watched the winter finale of How I Met Your Mother, where Barney finally proposes to Robin. I still can't believe Robin said 'yes' in a heartbeat. But it was such a lovey-dovey moment, made me all mushy. ( Sorry for spoiling it for those who still haven't watched it !)
Then I read this book called, A Girl Like You, where long time friends and flatmates Abigail and Robert realise they are each other's soulmates. It was one of the best books I read this year with the right amount of laughter, friendship, love and silliness.
All this made me wonder, how is it possible to fall for your own best friend ? Yes, you probably know them more than they know themselves. You even know their whole dating history. But you also know their wierd disgusting habits and you can probably tell what they are thinking in the blink of an eye. Actually now when I think about it, being in a relationship with your best friend would also be so convenient. You wouldn't have to pretend to like things. You could gossip about just anyone and you could even yell at them anytime because you know they wouldn't feel bad.
But then, to actually be with someone you need that 'spark'. That spark that makes you skip a beat every time you see them. That spark which gives you butterflies every time they call out your name. You are probably so used to being around your best friend that you might have already fallen for them but may be you will never see it.
It took Barney and Robin 8 years. How long would it take you ?
Two things happened this week that made me think about it. I watched the winter finale of How I Met Your Mother, where Barney finally proposes to Robin. I still can't believe Robin said 'yes' in a heartbeat. But it was such a lovey-dovey moment, made me all mushy. ( Sorry for spoiling it for those who still haven't watched it !)
Then I read this book called, A Girl Like You, where long time friends and flatmates Abigail and Robert realise they are each other's soulmates. It was one of the best books I read this year with the right amount of laughter, friendship, love and silliness.
All this made me wonder, how is it possible to fall for your own best friend ? Yes, you probably know them more than they know themselves. You even know their whole dating history. But you also know their wierd disgusting habits and you can probably tell what they are thinking in the blink of an eye. Actually now when I think about it, being in a relationship with your best friend would also be so convenient. You wouldn't have to pretend to like things. You could gossip about just anyone and you could even yell at them anytime because you know they wouldn't feel bad.
But then, to actually be with someone you need that 'spark'. That spark that makes you skip a beat every time you see them. That spark which gives you butterflies every time they call out your name. You are probably so used to being around your best friend that you might have already fallen for them but may be you will never see it.
It took Barney and Robin 8 years. How long would it take you ?
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Hypothetically, i would love to fall in love with my best friend for exactly those reasons... because I know both her pluses and minuses and I still love her. How long would it take you - I dont know... years for sure.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, how awesome was that last episode of HIMYM... they've really come back with a bang this season after a few average seasons... they and Dexter both.
How long would it take me ? No noooo, I was just talking in general Roshan :P
DeleteNothing to do with me..haha
Seriously this season is so much better than the last one, they are actually progressing the story line
Hi Ritika,
ReplyDeleteSpoilers alert !!!! :p :p :p
Ok, with that out of the way, I agree, that it does take some time for you to realize that a person is meant for you. Although, some things might not be according to you but still, you feel like adjusting for those small imperfections. Life is imperfect in a lot of ways. Lovely post.
Keep up the good work
Regards
Jay
http://road-to-sanitarium.blogspot.in/
So true Jay ! And sorry for teh spoiler :P
Deletedealing with the same question past few days...
ReplyDeletehttp://sneharahatekar.blogspot.in/2012/12/in-love-with-my-best-friend.html?showComment=1356008661093#c4206819327326279142
Running over to read :D :D
Deletethe person you love becomes your best friend only :)
ReplyDeleteKind of agree with you too Prateek :)
DeleteI can't say because I fell in love first and then this guy who I now call my husband became a friend I could confide everything to ... And I am amazed can you be that open in any relationship... I tell him the things that even I can't to my best friend...
ReplyDeleteIt's the same case with me Jas.
DeleteI would tell him those things I wouldn't even tell my best friend
like you said falling for your best friend is more easy bcz de knw u well den you yourself & as for the spark you need well may be it was always der bcz i hav experienced that evn to tolerate each other to d level that we bcum best friends we need tat spark i mean as cliche as it sounds "something does clik" 1st n den we bcum friends right. otherwise there r million ppl around n y do we get close to only a few. Atleast that wat i experience.
ReplyDelete:)
So true Dikshal something does click. Plus, I believe people might come and go but friendships are forever :)
DeleteI dunno the answer to these questions: "Do you think you could ever fall in love with your best friend ? Or are you already in love with them ?"
ReplyDeletebut what I know is if that happens then thats the best thing that can happen to you...you will be really lucky... :)
Yeah, tolerating your best friend doesn't sound so scary :D
DeleteIt is a very complicated fragment of relation. . You love the person without really loving. You may not really have a romantic attachment but you may also, but you won't realise it until it is too late and almost all the time the suppressed sadness of seeing such a person ending up with someone else gives you a strange peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteBut if it works out then I guess that is one of the best things that could happen. .
Yeah, sometimes it gets a little late
DeleteYou totally reminded me of that movie, My Best Friend's Wedding :D
Pretty interesting post and to be frank it packed me with sweet and funny memories. Its certainly not sad since my best friend is still with me and she is happily married with a kid too now. Its always so easy to fall in love with your best friend, but in time it will make us realize that, they are more of friendly nature and we too feel more comfortable as friend than a lover. We feel so freedom of expression since we know everything of them and vice versa too. But the other way around can happen. Ie you meet someone so special in time, if telling in your way like you felt a spark when he nears you and eventually you fall in love with him. And it will become so beautiful that they will become your best friend as time passes. .the person with whom you can share anything and everything as a lover . .as a friend!!
ReplyDeleteWhen you meet that person. .you will know it dear. . . :)
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And hai, thank for suggesting the read. I will try getting " A Girl Like You" by Gemma Burgess soon. . .take care Ritika!!
Yeah, the other way around is true too Renju
DeleteHope you like the book ! :)