Hope
Because darling, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. And even if you die you could always come back as a ghost and scare those bastards.
It's like you know exactly what is wrong and what is right but you are just not strong enough to take a step forward. Time probably does heal everything, but it sounds so risky to me already.
Sometimes I really wish I was the kind of person I projected in front of others, may be even just half of it.
Shedding down tears for people who don't deserve it is the worst mistake of all. But sometimes its not easy to see who's worth keeping in your life and who is not. Of course when we look back at our past the answers seem so crystal clear and we can't believe what an idiot we were for not seeing it.
But sometimes, the conditions and situations, they form a fog in front of our eyes. We don't even want to look what's ahead, until we bump into something really nasty.
I shy away from confrontations, I can't fight with the people I should put up a fight. Instead, I go and fight with people who want to help me. I pretend to be this really rough girl in front of the world, because I guess that's my security blanket.
But I still have a hope there is a strong girl inside me, who just needs a little push to come out. And I know I'll be that girl in just a matter of time. And then, I wouldn't have to shy away from fights and conversations or pretend like I got something in my eye (Seriously, I hate crying in front of people. Is there any permanent way to remove tear glands ? It's really annoying !)
Till then I am just going to pretend to be that strong girl I want to be and hope no one notices.
Because I am just an ordinary, weak, overly-dependent, selfish and self obsessed girl ( Yes, I have been called a lot of names ! )
But as my favourite Ellen Degeneres says "My haters are my motivators"
It's like you know exactly what is wrong and what is right but you are just not strong enough to take a step forward. Time probably does heal everything, but it sounds so risky to me already.
Sometimes I really wish I was the kind of person I projected in front of others, may be even just half of it.
Shedding down tears for people who don't deserve it is the worst mistake of all. But sometimes its not easy to see who's worth keeping in your life and who is not. Of course when we look back at our past the answers seem so crystal clear and we can't believe what an idiot we were for not seeing it.
But sometimes, the conditions and situations, they form a fog in front of our eyes. We don't even want to look what's ahead, until we bump into something really nasty.
I shy away from confrontations, I can't fight with the people I should put up a fight. Instead, I go and fight with people who want to help me. I pretend to be this really rough girl in front of the world, because I guess that's my security blanket.
But I still have a hope there is a strong girl inside me, who just needs a little push to come out. And I know I'll be that girl in just a matter of time. And then, I wouldn't have to shy away from fights and conversations or pretend like I got something in my eye (Seriously, I hate crying in front of people. Is there any permanent way to remove tear glands ? It's really annoying !)
Till then I am just going to pretend to be that strong girl I want to be and hope no one notices.
Because I am just an ordinary, weak, overly-dependent, selfish and self obsessed girl ( Yes, I have been called a lot of names ! )
But as my favourite Ellen Degeneres says "My haters are my motivators"
To new year and new beginnings :)
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Reminded me of a Steve Jobs quote. It goes something like you cannot fill the blanks looking ahead, but only by looking back. .
ReplyDeleteSometimes pretending to be a tough person helps, only thing is people won't ask you if you are hurt. .
So true Rohan
DeleteSOmetimes you just wish people could look into your eyes and realise something is wrong
You are always foggy when the situation is in front of you. Looking back clears the perspective but decisions in those foggy times makes us what we are so don't fret them, don't regret them. Just take everything in your stride.
ReplyDeleteI am definitely going to follow what you said Jas :)
DeleteTrust me.. I was always the guy who avoided confrontation, even when I knew I was being cheated. I'd rather let myself be cheated than fight with the opposing person... for want of 'ruining the friendship' with my actions.
ReplyDeleteThat changed this year and I would highly recommend it to u too - be the best darn Ritika you can be... cut off people who seem to drag you down, no matter how important a part of your life they 'once' were. Look closely and identify those are sticking around even when you're down.. those are the guys you want n your corner as life progresses...
'ordinary, weak, self obsessed, overtly dependant'... yeah. I'm all that too... but I know I can now be more ! And so can you...
Thanks a lot Roshan, that was really inspiring
DeleteYeah, I can be a lot more, and I will be , soon hopefully :)
Poor tear glands.....they must feel so hated and left out. Ev1 seems to hate them. I feel v bad for them.
ReplyDeleteIts okay to cry Ritika...and instead of spending your efforts and energy in trying to hide them....be open bout them and fire the people who think 'because you cry you are weak'
I also cry at times. Nothing to be ashamed bout it. I am not a saint.... i also feel v miserable when i cry .... but i also try to reason out and not stifle it...... and you must also... :)
Someday the you you will be the you others see.....(i hope they do....with me also :P....m just believing that they will ...hehe )
gud luck :)
I hate that feeling of helplessness.
DeleteThe only reason why I dont cry in front of people is because I dont want to let them know I am weak..crying probably does not mean I am a weak person. But I dont know, it just makes me feel that way
Sometimes i feel like you are so similar to the very voice inside me. Only difference is that you have the courage to express it openly and put it in words here while i am failing a lot of times for doing so and coz of that im sometimes keeping myself away from things, happenings and even people. Now itself i have been goin thru a very confusing and unexpected portion of my life for the past two months and im checking out indiblogger after a gap of more than a month and its ur post that i first checked out. Felt really relieved after going through it. You have a real gift in expressing feelings, confusions of your mind etc.
ReplyDeleteDont be afraid of shedding tears in time Ritika. Some times we have to cry and feel more down and will wish to be be alone a lot. But i am sure by the time you have stopped crying you will feel much better. . i'm telling this from my experience. People used to give me a a weirdo look when my eyes get wet suddenly if someone we care a lot, behaves in an unexpected way. But all that time i will be fully occupied by the thoughts only and i least care abt what others will think of me in seeing such a situation. . After all its our mind na.. it may not behave so bold as we expect it to do. . But never feel so down. . Believe that no matter what bad happens, there is something good still waiting for you. . So cheers my little buddy. . :)
Something good..just the thing I am waiting for :)
DeleteHopefully I'll get it soon
Seems lik our life is goin parallel ritika. Evn i have cried a lot in past few months for ppl who were once imp and left without notice. But call it a blessin or curse i dunno my tear glands obey me de only burst wen m alone or ealier wen i was with someone i trusted.i wud say cry bcz it relieves all d stress n pressure n yes if de xome out in public its not wrong bcz ppl everywher r d same u nvr knw d person watchin u cry n makin faces mit themselves be holdin thier tears frm burstin. It happens wit me all d time :-P and a girl who loves is always strong frm within its jst tat we attach ourselves to wrong ppl sometimes but den again wrong nai hota toh hume right ki kadar kaise hoti? :-) all the best for ur journey of life dear
ReplyDeleteAwwww thats so sweet Diksha
DeleteI am always the one making faces when someone else is crying :P
So, everytime I cry, I feel there is someone making faces at me :D :D