Do it right the first time

By Sunday, July 19, 2015

Parenting is probably one of the toughest jobs in the world, it’s not just about doing it – it’s about getting it right. See the thing is, you don’t really get second chances at it. The kind of lessons you could give your child when he’s ten years old, you would probably not be able to do it when he’s all grown up.

I have not been on the other side of the table yet but I can only assume how difficult it might have been for my parents to raise two headstrong girls. As judgemental as it may sound, I strongly feel that the way you raise your children can completely change their perspective about the world and about themselves too.

A parent should never be too over involved in a kid’s life. It actually takes me two minutes on the clock to know if the person I am talking to had an over involved parent in their childhood. It affects the kids’ decision power to an amount you cannot even imagine, not just that it makes them sort of incapable of making individual decisions.

On the other hand, I was one of those lucky ones who had ‘buddy parents’, well we weren't really buddies but they let me make my own decisions and learn from my own mistakes. Of course, they were there for me every time I made a big mess but that didn't make them any less of a liberal.

There were times when my mom taught me how to use the electric gas stove (Did you know the new gas stoves don’t need a lighter? I spent 2 hours trying to figure that out all alone). Then there were times when I taught her how to use ‘the Facebook’ and find the space bar on her computer.

And then there are things that my parents could never teach me – like how to drive, how to cook or how to keep your room clean. But they are not really necessities, you can easily survive without that if you know how to book a cab and order your food while you are in that cab. (I have done it and had the yummiest chilli garlic noodles delivered at my doorstep the moment I got home)

What you need to always remember is that it’s a two way street. Your kids might have come into this world knowing nothing but with your amazing guidance, they have find their way through and may be now they can help guide you with a few things too.

Here’s hoping you are your kid’s best buddy.

When I was trying to tell mom, which is the 'right Whatsapp' to download. I sent this picture on her Whatsapp by the way.

This post was writing in association with Kellogg’s Chocos Ke Saath Khuljaye Bachpan

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  1. Wonderful thoughts and perspective indeed. Greetings!

  2. So cute, that screenshot. Mine have let me make my own mistakes and learn from them to and I'm always thankful to them for it.

  3. Beautifully articulated, Ritika. I have been reading a lot on this topic and it's interesting to see that contrary to what the internet suggests, more and more parents feel that buddy parenting is the way to go. No parenting technique can beat being buddies with you bachcha.

    Here's my post on the prompt, do give it a read please :)

    1. I am glad you liked it Ragini and I will definitely give your post a read :)