The Strong Girl Theory

By Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Somewhere along the lines you discover the kind of person you want to be, you realize which people are worth keeping in your lives and which ones should be chucked off immediately.

There are only going to be a few people who will stand by your side even when the whole world goes against you. You need to know who those people are and treat them with the respect they deserve. Its human nature to take those for granted who we know won't leave us in any way, and we start going behind the wrong things. Instead, what we really need to do is shower love and respect on the people who have always been there supporting us and criticizing us to make us stronger. 

Whenever we are in a dilemma, we often put our hands up declaring we have no idea which way to go. When actually, we know exactly what we need to do. We are just too afraid to do it or sometimes just want to see where the wrong road might take us. You don't have to be good at decision making to get out of the dilemma, you just have to follow your heart. Because no matter how much you condemn it, your heart always points in the right direction.

I have always wanted to be the strong girl everybody could take inspiration from. I remember I was in 5th class when I had just changed schools and I was having a very hard time adjusting. It was this new posh school with all the smart kids who scared me to death. I used to go in the bathroom during recess and cry endlessly. After two weeks of being the timid-never-speaking-anything girl and crying over not being able to adjust, I decided I had to get over it. I decided I would rather 'fake it till I make it' and be that girl who scared everyone else to death. 

From then began the fa├žade of the strong girl. I acted so emotionally detached in front of people, my friends used to make bets if I even had a heart. I thought may be if I played the part, I would become that emotionally-detached-never-getting-phased-by-anything girl. Of course, the mask does come off in front of some people but that's because I am not afraid to be vulnerable with them. But I don't think I can ever take the mask off completely for the world to see. 

I am just not that strong.




Because I just had to share it. This is way too funny 

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34 comments

  1. Nice one Ritika! I loved the way you put it. The heart always knows what is right. But we don't listen because we are scared!

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    1. You are absolutely right Reema :)

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  2. I feel people fear judgement more than anything and in school and college life it is more. As there are teasing, seclusion, bulling whatnot involved. We all need our comfort zone and circle of trust, people around whom we can be just who we are. :) :D

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    1. Definitely. We don't address the issue of bullying enough in school here. The worst part is, people who are bullied become bitter and turn into a bully themselves

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  3. We all have our bubble and we detest all coming and seeing us for who we are exactly tos ome extent.

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    1. Thats spot on Datta..exactly what was on my mind

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  4. Clearly you are strong..and you are beautiful...How you controlled yourself as a kid shows how wise you are.

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  5. you are 100% bang on when you say its only a few who will stand with you when you need, Rest will just disappear ..

    but you are good and i am sure each one of us tries to be strong in front of the world but are our true self with a few only , such are the ways of the world i think.. I know everyone says oh we are same all the time , it is hard to believe that ..

    I dont see anything wrong in that ... I am the same I try to be same all the time ..


    Bikram's

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    1. Exactly..Even I feel that nobody is what they say they are, everyone has an inner self that they try to get hide

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  6. I bottle up my feelings, my pain..Never show that to anyone. Always laughing and smiling around. The bad parti s I don't share them with anyone..too strong I guess ;)

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  7. Appreciate your confession. You gotta be gutsy to reveal this (y)

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  8. You are right. There are some people who do care about us and we have to value them and seek them. :)

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  9. I could so much relate to this Ritika. Its very easy to mask a smile on your face when you are dying inside. I have gone through this phase of my life.

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    1. I am seriously happy to know I am not the only one

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  10. Its true how we have to wear a mask as soon as we move out of our house...sometimes even inside .
    I can relate well because I am a pro at hiding my emotions and you can never know if I am upset. Happiness is what I would rather share with my near ones. Every one has their own battle to fight.
    I feel like I will burden them with all my sad emotions, when they already have a lot of their own. I must admit though, that it has somewhere made me stronger as a person.

    Good writing :

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    1. I feel the exact same way.. some times you dont share what you feel because you dont want to burden to the people you care about. But what I have learnt in the past one year is that you need to share your problems with people...otherwise they eat you up inside

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  11. I can relate to your post a complete 100%. I loved the comic strip at the end. That is so me!

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    1. Thank you Sakshi ! You made my day :)

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  12. This is EXACTLY how I feel. EXACTLY. Your words summed it up so well!
    http://www.desiukgirl.wordpress.com
    xo

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    1. I am just glad to know I am not the only one

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  13. Well put Ritika. There are always only a few who stand by you. Your heart knows what is right and so do you, you're afraid. Also, the facade never works with these people, ever.
    Great post! :)

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    1. Thats so true. The facade could never work with some people

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  14. Hii Ritika,
    How are you?
    I have been reading your blog from past two months, and i found this "Strong Girl Theory" quite relating and also I remember when i changed my school in 9th, the same Dramatic thing happened to me..
    Well the best is, You write putting your heart at your finger tips..
    Missing You ;)

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    1. Awww.. Thankssss sonia :)

      I miss you too !

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  15. he pretends to be strong, but no one knows how she feels. how she feels.. :)

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  16. Great going girl !! am waiting for more :)

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