The Grey Area

By Thursday, May 31, 2012 , ,


There are times in life when the line between right and wrong gets blurry,so blurry that it gets difficult to know where one ends and the other begins.

But at these times when the black and white cannot be easily recognized ,what do we do ? Should we follow our mind,our conscience or our heart ?

I cant help but wonder how my life would have  turned out if I had made some different decisions. I always tried to make sure no matter how wrong my decisions were ,I was happy with them . Surely I have made some bad ones,and I have suffered the consequences too. In fact I  still continue to make bad choices,but I am still happy and I think that's what matters at the end of the day.

I read this book a few years back, Veronica Decides To Die by Paulo Coelho, and it shook me to the core. It’s about a girl who always behaves perfectly because everyone expected her to. She was an A grade student, she always did what her parents wanted to do and she never did anything that would lead people to judge her. All in all, she never did anything she liked. One day she realized what a wasteful life she has had. And she decided to die. There is a lot that happens after that, but I don’t want to give any spoilers. If you haven’t read the book, you definitely should. It’s one of the best by Coelho.

The book made me realize I was doing the same mistakes . And that’s when I decided to take control of my life and do all the things I actually want to do. Well, I didn’t really know what I wanted to do that time but I did know what I didn’t want to do. So I gave up my admission at one of the most prestigious university abroad, and took up a college in India. My parents were not exactly happy. But now I am just one hour flight away from them and I like it. Going abroad might have been the right decision, but it would not have given me that peace of mind I have now.

How do you define the Grey Area ?



On a completely different note,
I woke up with this song on my mind. Definitely Mohit Chauhan at his best





Hope you all have a great day
Ritika

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18 comments

  1. I think right and wrong very much depends on one's perspective so there is always a possibility where I might something is wrong but in your eyes it will be right. Like the decision you took to stay closer to your parents.. like the decision I took to quit my job...

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    1. You are right ,at the end of the day all that matters is happiness and self content

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  2. Nice post Ritika! We always have this dilemma of choice. My post too, incidentally is on same subject:)

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  3. It's takes a lifetime to realize what we want. You are lucky, you figured it out early.

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    1. Still figuring it out Purba..still figuring it out ;)

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  4. I believe no decision is right or wrong. At the end of the day, what matters is what you made out of your decision. If you feel happy and contended, your decision was right otherwise wrong... simple as it is!!!

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    1. Completely agree with you Ashwini :)

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  5. Nice post! :)
    BTW, the song Guncha is my favourite. :)

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  6. I echo that coz' I totally relate to you. I have done a similar thing in my life - gave us admissions in US to stay back in India. That I am in S'pore now is a different thing but I have always wanted to stay with parents. I also made some choices in my career that weren't "expected" of me. Relatives felt that I should have taken a well trodden path and I differed. But I am proud and happy of my choices, by God's Grace!!!!!!!!!!
    As long as you feel responsible for your decisions, celebrate them and learn from them all by yourself, you have lived your life ! :)

    Grey area - when we are so clear about all this, where's the grey?

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    1. Grey area is the 'what if' question that keeps popping in my head every blue moon :)

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  7. guess what veronika decides to die is my fav book too and like you said it shook the hell out of me- till date the narrative resonates in my heart n mind. I guess when finally you are at peace with your decisions, nothing else matters

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    1. Exactly Priya,when I ended reading the book I asked myself the same question..was I at peace or not because otherwise its not worth it

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  8. the world is never Black or white.. neither its "black and white" - its grey .. all possible shades and hues of it.. and its this uncertainty that makes it so interesting - isnt it?

    Paolo Coelho in most of his books has provoked us to search our own soul - to find the answers.. rather than look for it around the world. Dream and be ready to chase it and be as close to it as possible - no mattter what others say about em !

    btw - what happened after that 1 hr flight ?

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    1. Same old,I still continue to make a lot of stupid decisions and some good ones too :)

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  9. Hey,

    Sorry to shower u with my senseless comments bt its my tendency to read almost all the posts by bloggers whom i stumble upon.

    Anyways this post made me remember "veronica decides to die" although i still have this book bt i was unable to complete it. Right and wrong is more about perspective(exceptions are of course heinous crimes as murders which will always be wrong).I read a novel "MRITUNJAY" by shivaji sawant its Hindi translation of marathi book based upon the Mahabharata fame "KARAN" 1 of d bst books i have ever read.I remember Duryodhan's perspective- "There is nthg like totally right or totally wrong its all abt perceptions.As per me i am righteous as i am fighting for my throne"

    I felt connected with your post as right and wrong gives a deep trouble to consciousness. Paulo Coehlo's book "Winner stands alone" gives a bit glimpse of that which is story about 24 hours in cannes film festival and its protagonist(or antagonist) do something bad bt he justifies hi,self by telling that its for better purpose.

    R u on goodreads.com ?
    Keep Posting...

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    1. Yeah,the right or wrong decision gives a lot of trouble to consciousness. Its like the mind is under constant scrutiny thinking whether what I did was really the right thing to do. For all I wanted in the first place was a peace of mind

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